Work, Life, Marriage, and Parenting (with Twins!!)
Structural Engineer –
Work-life balance…a great oxymoron. How do you begin to achieve such stability? Well, I’m becoming more gifted at it. My wife, Monica, and I were blessed with Luke in August 2012 and then found out we were pregnant with identical twin girls, Lizzy and Abby, eight months later. It appears that we’re taking Brian J. Gail’s advice to heart in his book Fatherless, “If you want to get to Heaven, then have a couple of kids. If you want to be a Saint, then have a baseball team of them.” Yep, you counted correctly. Three kids in diapers!
My life suddenly became very busy and to help compensate, I’m learning to drink coffee. I still need a lot of creamer! Even while chasing Luke throughout the house, finding time to mow the lawn, having hand washed thousands of bottles over the last four months, feeding twins and changing so many diapers at 3 am, all while designing the occasional beam and diaphragm, I really couldn’t be happier. Oh, and did I mention that I’m taking night classes at CU Denver for my master’s degree? It must’ve slipped my mind. That happens sometimes to those that are sleep-deprived.
Achieving some form of work-life balance was vital because both parts of my life require a significant amount of time. I need to meet all of my project deadlines, while at the same time, spend enough time with my family. Gratefully, Martin/Martin’s culture allows for ample scheduling flexibility so that I can be the best father and husband, employee and co-worker that I can be. I’m so thankful that I work for such a great company!
Work-life balance is a delicate matter. If someone were to ask me “How can I start improving my work-life balance?” I might respond, “I’m not really sure, but I started by fielding a baseball team.”